Tips on managing your bottom
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How to Manage a Helpless Cock-Addict Sub Bottom
Bottoms and Addiction to Cock
So I got an earful from this bottom guy about how a bottom becomes addicted to a cock, especially if he gets fucked raw, to the point that he will do anything to get it ... and he will make himself available anytime his cock-master needs him ... it was really good stuff to hear ... pointers on how to get the bottom addicted and then how to exert control over him ... especially interesting was the sense of helplessness the bottom will experience faced with this addiction ... as this guy said: "you will end up doing things you don't want to do just to get the cock, even things that are not good for you ... and the top knows this and will use it- --- sub bottoms love to feel degraded and part of that degradation is the feeling of helplessness for the cock. The bottom will beg and let the top know he has control ... "
Fascinating psychology ... pathetic in a way ... but I guess all part of human sexual dynamics ...
and I have observed this from this guy I know-- and I quote ... "you can come over as late as you want ... I'll be here. " -- and all he said was that because I was present--I imagine the conversation would have been different if he had been alone ... I could see how nervous and excited he got at the words of submission he was uttering, his voice cracked and he turned red ... this after the top guy he was talking to had basically blown him off several times and had alluded at cutting him off from his "drug"... but this guy couldn't help himself ... he needed the cock!! and he very sadly submitted and made himself available ... another time I observed him frantically running into traffic in the pouring rain trying to to catch a cab so he could get to his cock --risking getting run by cars ...!
How sad ...
I can see that as part of sexual play; but when it becomes part of your behavior and wen you allow someone else to manipulate you just so you can get fucked, well, I think you have lost self respect ... and how can others respect you?
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The Submissive Bottom: Guidelines to managing your bottom
below are some guidelines on how to treat your submissive bottom ... based on my observations and information and "advice" given to me by friends and acquaintances both tops and bottoms ... of course, this is advice for those tops out there who are not looking for love in a relationship ... just someone to fuck and have around to use
treat you bottom like the woman that he is -- objectify him -- his ass is the key and you control him with your cock. Make sure you fuck him good.
Keep your sub-bottom emotionally isolated by filling his head with doubt about those around him. Use his own words to show him how he cannot trust anyone else ... this will keep him bound to you for as long as you need his holes to get off
is your bottom becoming interested in someone else? give him the honeymoon treatment, make plans so he flakes out on his new interest. Once the other one disappears, you go back to treating your bottom like the butthole that he is to you.
Keep your bottom's interest by making him think you're also interested in what they're interested in ... at least do that until the other people in their with whom they share those interests disappear ... once they disappear, then wean yourself off ... for instance, if he goes food shopping with someone, then you take an interest in food shopping ... he will drop the other person soon enough. Once the other person stops food shopping with him, then you make yourself unavailable whenever he's going food shopping ... the idea here is to isolate him from those around him ... you need him to rely on you and you need him to feel others have abandoned him. A lonely, depressed bottom is an easy target for emotional, sexual, social manipulation ...
sub bottoms just need a good fuck -- keep their hole happy and they will be around no matter how you treat them
if they ever need your help with anything, make yourself unavailable. They should not become reliant on you for anything other than your cock.
Make sure he gets cock when only you're horny not when he wants it -- and if he wants it bad enough, make him beg for it and denigrate himself to get the cock. His needs and desires are secondary.
Ignore your bottom around friends and family; make him feel unimportant and worthless; but then when alone, give him lots of attention-fuck with his head, make him feel confused--and then fuck him good.
be stern with your bottom -- let him know who is boss in and out the bedroom -- make sure your bottom feel intimidated by you -- make them fear you -- they secretly love the feeling and when you make them feel intimidated, it sends pleasure signals to their command center: their butthole. This works especially well for bottoms from abusive back grounds ... they crave physical/mental abuse--they have eroticized it
make sure your bottom knows his pleasure does not matter -- he is there to serve you. If he insist that you caress him or the like, a half-ass effort will do. You're the man, he should take care of your needs
do not show affection other than when fucking your bottom -- he needs to know that you are the man. Sub bottoms are not looking for love and do not respect an affectionate top. They just want a masculine "straight" top who just wants to use their hole.
Make sure all affection leads to sex--that's what they know.
Make your bottom think it is only him you're fucking. You only feel horny for him. They eat this up like candy and will be faithful to you ...
be firm and stern with your bottom--use your deep voice when you talk to him, especially if you're in front of others--treat him like a child and tell others how his like a big child -- make him feel small and belittled
make your bottom feel you own him. Sub bottoms are weak-willed and will hang on to whoever makes them feel wanted no matter how miserable they are and even if they know the person is not good for them--they feel lost and lonely otherwise.
You need your bottom to buy you things or give you money or a "loan" ... give your bottom the sweet treatment: fuck him repeatedly--this is what they understand as affection -- once his happy and glowing, then ask him for the money ... you may not even have to ask, he will offer it to you willingly.
Fuck with his self esteem. He will feel worthless and thus afraid to venture away from you. Make sure he reaches a point where he doesn't know whether he's coming or going. If he is sad or depressed, fuck him some more-- keep him distracted with your cock at all times--
Exert subtle and overt control over your sub bottom. He is not to feel like he has a life of his own. Make him feel that you're allowing him to do things
distract your bottom with thoughts of your cock at all times. if your sub bottom is sick or otherwise indisposed, leave him alone or just check if he's well enough for a fuck. All he is to you is a hole for you to fuck. Remember you own him and his holes--and they should be available when you need them. if he can't give you his asshole, then use his mouth. If he's not in the mood for either, then let him be on his own.
Find other top cocks to fuck your bottom. Sub bottoms love to have more than one cock fucking them and this will keep them even happier. Remember, your bottoms happiness is all about cock and his hole.
manipulate his time. keep him at home waiting for you to call. always make last minute plans with him so he does not make any plans in advance with anyone else waiting for you to call; or make plans that are not concrete so that he doesn't know when you will be calling to confirm -- the idea is to keep him from making plans with anyone else
if your bottom makes plans with anyone else, send him text messages telling him how hard your cock is and how much you want to fuck him right now. he will cancel his plans and cab it to you so you can give him cock
sub bottom are weak. they have no will power and can easily be influenced by those around them. make sure you keep your bottom in check by undermining anyone who might have any influence over him in subtle and not so subtle ways.
make sure his friends like you and have a high opinion of you. he relies on their opinion more than the the facts and they will keep telling him how good you are for him even if he is unhappy with you. But if you're a particularly dark individual, keep your exposure to his friends on a "need to" basis -- you don;t want them to see past your "nice guy" cover --
if your bottom starts making any plans that will take him away from you, let him--then fuck him good and fuck him often--go on a fuckathon for a few days. Those plans will quickly become wishful thinking and will fizzle away. Keep his asshole entertained and he will forget all about his plans. bottoms cannot control their craving for cock.
if your bottom starts feeling unhappy and dissatisfied and wants "more" from the relationship, fuck him some more.
bottoms from dysfunctional backgrounds might feel unhappy and may want to seek help, psychological or spiritual -- let them but make sure to undermine their efforts with plenty of cock and subtle questions that make them doubt the effectiveness of their effort --or make fuck plans on the days they have their session -- their hungry hole will be stronger than their weak desire for self improvement-- soon they will give it up and be at your disposal for more cock
remember to make your sub bottom feel "owned" -- I cannot emphasize this one enough. They crave feeling owned, they want to belong to someone
do not give in to your bottom. do not do what he wants and deny him as often as you can, even if it's small things and especially in front of others--your show of control secretly excites them and they love it when you show other that you're the man; or make it sound like you;re making an effort just to please him. Bottoms need to be constantly reminded that their interests and pleasures are of no importance to you.
if your bottom gets too demanding or starts acting like he doesn't need you, give him the silent treatment and deny him cock. he will start to go crazy and will want to please you -- he will be just like a little boy who wants to please you -- and he will come back to you even more pliable than before. you need to do this often to keep the bottom in check.
Don't let your sub bottom feel secure about how you feel toward him. always keep him feeling that you can go and find someone else at any moment. this will keep them in check.
when you;re around your friends or his friends, do not show any affection to your bottom. you are the man. All your friends and his friends need to know is that you fuck him and he loves it. bottoms love to feel exposed--they love it when others know that they submit and take it up their ass
remember to practice your macho posturing. Sub bottoms love to feel that their man is a real man's man--a real "top"
Take aggressive stance in front of your bottom. You're a real "macho" top and your bottom needs to see that
be physically aggressive. they crave and love being subjugated and dominated ... maybe in time you can give him a slap or two to keep him in check ...
when you're at home with your bottom, make sure he serves you--if you're thirsty, make him bring you water. That is his place and sub bottoms love it.
always be a little mean and abusive to your sub bottom -- especially those from dysfunctional/abusive backgrounds -- keeps them in check --they don't want things to get worse and they love the abuse
always keep in touch with your bottom through the day -- makes him feel wanted. if you make your sub feel wanted, you can treat him as good or as bad as you want and he will take it -- after all, you want him...
And punish him by giving him the silent treatment and emotionally distancing from him--he will become desperate and submit to you, each time more docile!
make your bottom feel like you have chosen him, but not really--you're just too lazy to find someone else -- and anyway, there are plenty of fish in the sea --again, don;t let him feel secure
fuck your bottom bareback and fill him with your cum even if they don't want you to ... not their choice to make ... keep your cock up his hole after you cum ... or make them swallow your cum
if your sub was abused growing up, role play the abuse with him. He will keep coming back for more. include face slapping in the role play--they love that ... plant fear in him in role play -- will keep him submissive to you all the time ...
if he becomes angry or offended, be especially nice and promise not to do it again, but make him feel it was his fault--he provoked it ... then give him the "honeymoon" treatment and fuck him some more ... he'll forget soon enough
remember, with a sub bottom, it's all about keeping their hungry hole happy and feeding their submissive cravings ... nothing else matters to them ... make them feel used and they will be yours for as long as you want to ...
Once friends have convinced the bottom that you are the best thing for him and once everyone else has disappeared from his life, now you can reap the benefits of your hard work ... use him no only sexually, but financially, emotionally ... he is yours to do as you want ... prove your manliness and domination by humiliating him in subtle ways in front of the very same friends who pushed him to you ... and when in private, make him humiliate himself to serve you, his Master ... as a "real top" you now have your reward ... enjoy it
How to Manage a Helpless Cock-Addict Sub Bottom
Bottoms and Addiction to Cock
So I got an earful from this bottom guy about how a bottom becomes addicted to a cock, especially if he gets fucked raw, to the point that he will do anything to get it ... and he will make himself available anytime his cock-master needs him ... it was really good stuff to hear ... pointers on how to get the bottom addicted and then how to exert control over him ... especially interesting was the sense of helplessness the bottom will experience faced with this addiction ... as this guy said: "you will end up doing things you don't want to do just to get the cock, even things that are not good for you ... and the top knows this and will use it- --- sub bottoms love to feel degraded and part of that degradation is the feeling of helplessness for the cock. The bottom will beg and let the top know he has control ... "
Fascinating psychology ... pathetic in a way ... but I guess all part of human sexual dynamics ...
and I have observed this from this guy I know-- and I quote ... "you can come over as late as you want ... I'll be here. " -- and all he said was that because I was present--I imagine the conversation would have been different if he had been alone ... I could see how nervous and excited he got at the words of submission he was uttering, his voice cracked and he turned red ... this after the top guy he was talking to had basically blown him off several times and had alluded at cutting him off from his "drug"... but this guy couldn't help himself ... he needed the cock!! and he very sadly submitted and made himself available ... another time I observed him frantically running into traffic in the pouring rain trying to to catch a cab so he could get to his cock --risking getting run by cars ...!
How sad ...
I can see that as part of sexual play; but when it becomes part of your behavior and wen you allow someone else to manipulate you just so you can get fucked, well, I think you have lost self respect ... and how can others respect you?
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
The Submissive Bottom: Guidelines to managing your bottom
below are some guidelines on how to treat your submissive bottom ... based on my observations and information and "advice" given to me by friends and acquaintances both tops and bottoms ... of course, this is advice for those tops out there who are not looking for love in a relationship ... just someone to fuck and have around to use
treat you bottom like the woman that he is -- objectify him -- his ass is the key and you control him with your cock. Make sure you fuck him good.
Keep your sub-bottom emotionally isolated by filling his head with doubt about those around him. Use his own words to show him how he cannot trust anyone else ... this will keep him bound to you for as long as you need his holes to get off
is your bottom becoming interested in someone else? give him the honeymoon treatment, make plans so he flakes out on his new interest. Once the other one disappears, you go back to treating your bottom like the butthole that he is to you.
Keep your bottom's interest by making him think you're also interested in what they're interested in ... at least do that until the other people in their with whom they share those interests disappear ... once they disappear, then wean yourself off ... for instance, if he goes food shopping with someone, then you take an interest in food shopping ... he will drop the other person soon enough. Once the other person stops food shopping with him, then you make yourself unavailable whenever he's going food shopping ... the idea here is to isolate him from those around him ... you need him to rely on you and you need him to feel others have abandoned him. A lonely, depressed bottom is an easy target for emotional, sexual, social manipulation ...
sub bottoms just need a good fuck -- keep their hole happy and they will be around no matter how you treat them
if they ever need your help with anything, make yourself unavailable. They should not become reliant on you for anything other than your cock.
Make sure he gets cock when only you're horny not when he wants it -- and if he wants it bad enough, make him beg for it and denigrate himself to get the cock. His needs and desires are secondary.
Ignore your bottom around friends and family; make him feel unimportant and worthless; but then when alone, give him lots of attention-fuck with his head, make him feel confused--and then fuck him good.
be stern with your bottom -- let him know who is boss in and out the bedroom -- make sure your bottom feel intimidated by you -- make them fear you -- they secretly love the feeling and when you make them feel intimidated, it sends pleasure signals to their command center: their butthole. This works especially well for bottoms from abusive back grounds ... they crave physical/mental abuse--they have eroticized it
make sure your bottom knows his pleasure does not matter -- he is there to serve you. If he insist that you caress him or the like, a half-ass effort will do. You're the man, he should take care of your needs
do not show affection other than when fucking your bottom -- he needs to know that you are the man. Sub bottoms are not looking for love and do not respect an affectionate top. They just want a masculine "straight" top who just wants to use their hole.
Make sure all affection leads to sex--that's what they know.
Make your bottom think it is only him you're fucking. You only feel horny for him. They eat this up like candy and will be faithful to you ...
be firm and stern with your bottom--use your deep voice when you talk to him, especially if you're in front of others--treat him like a child and tell others how his like a big child -- make him feel small and belittled
make your bottom feel you own him. Sub bottoms are weak-willed and will hang on to whoever makes them feel wanted no matter how miserable they are and even if they know the person is not good for them--they feel lost and lonely otherwise.
You need your bottom to buy you things or give you money or a "loan" ... give your bottom the sweet treatment: fuck him repeatedly--this is what they understand as affection -- once his happy and glowing, then ask him for the money ... you may not even have to ask, he will offer it to you willingly.
Fuck with his self esteem. He will feel worthless and thus afraid to venture away from you. Make sure he reaches a point where he doesn't know whether he's coming or going. If he is sad or depressed, fuck him some more-- keep him distracted with your cock at all times--
Exert subtle and overt control over your sub bottom. He is not to feel like he has a life of his own. Make him feel that you're allowing him to do things
distract your bottom with thoughts of your cock at all times. if your sub bottom is sick or otherwise indisposed, leave him alone or just check if he's well enough for a fuck. All he is to you is a hole for you to fuck. Remember you own him and his holes--and they should be available when you need them. if he can't give you his asshole, then use his mouth. If he's not in the mood for either, then let him be on his own.
Find other top cocks to fuck your bottom. Sub bottoms love to have more than one cock fucking them and this will keep them even happier. Remember, your bottoms happiness is all about cock and his hole.
manipulate his time. keep him at home waiting for you to call. always make last minute plans with him so he does not make any plans in advance with anyone else waiting for you to call; or make plans that are not concrete so that he doesn't know when you will be calling to confirm -- the idea is to keep him from making plans with anyone else
if your bottom makes plans with anyone else, send him text messages telling him how hard your cock is and how much you want to fuck him right now. he will cancel his plans and cab it to you so you can give him cock
sub bottom are weak. they have no will power and can easily be influenced by those around them. make sure you keep your bottom in check by undermining anyone who might have any influence over him in subtle and not so subtle ways.
make sure his friends like you and have a high opinion of you. he relies on their opinion more than the the facts and they will keep telling him how good you are for him even if he is unhappy with you. But if you're a particularly dark individual, keep your exposure to his friends on a "need to" basis -- you don;t want them to see past your "nice guy" cover --
if your bottom starts making any plans that will take him away from you, let him--then fuck him good and fuck him often--go on a fuckathon for a few days. Those plans will quickly become wishful thinking and will fizzle away. Keep his asshole entertained and he will forget all about his plans. bottoms cannot control their craving for cock.
if your bottom starts feeling unhappy and dissatisfied and wants "more" from the relationship, fuck him some more.
bottoms from dysfunctional backgrounds might feel unhappy and may want to seek help, psychological or spiritual -- let them but make sure to undermine their efforts with plenty of cock and subtle questions that make them doubt the effectiveness of their effort --or make fuck plans on the days they have their session -- their hungry hole will be stronger than their weak desire for self improvement-- soon they will give it up and be at your disposal for more cock
remember to make your sub bottom feel "owned" -- I cannot emphasize this one enough. They crave feeling owned, they want to belong to someone
do not give in to your bottom. do not do what he wants and deny him as often as you can, even if it's small things and especially in front of others--your show of control secretly excites them and they love it when you show other that you're the man; or make it sound like you;re making an effort just to please him. Bottoms need to be constantly reminded that their interests and pleasures are of no importance to you.
if your bottom gets too demanding or starts acting like he doesn't need you, give him the silent treatment and deny him cock. he will start to go crazy and will want to please you -- he will be just like a little boy who wants to please you -- and he will come back to you even more pliable than before. you need to do this often to keep the bottom in check.
Don't let your sub bottom feel secure about how you feel toward him. always keep him feeling that you can go and find someone else at any moment. this will keep them in check.
when you;re around your friends or his friends, do not show any affection to your bottom. you are the man. All your friends and his friends need to know is that you fuck him and he loves it. bottoms love to feel exposed--they love it when others know that they submit and take it up their ass
remember to practice your macho posturing. Sub bottoms love to feel that their man is a real man's man--a real "top"
Take aggressive stance in front of your bottom. You're a real "macho" top and your bottom needs to see that
be physically aggressive. they crave and love being subjugated and dominated ... maybe in time you can give him a slap or two to keep him in check ...
when you're at home with your bottom, make sure he serves you--if you're thirsty, make him bring you water. That is his place and sub bottoms love it.
always be a little mean and abusive to your sub bottom -- especially those from dysfunctional/abusive backgrounds -- keeps them in check --they don't want things to get worse and they love the abuse
always keep in touch with your bottom through the day -- makes him feel wanted. if you make your sub feel wanted, you can treat him as good or as bad as you want and he will take it -- after all, you want him...
And punish him by giving him the silent treatment and emotionally distancing from him--he will become desperate and submit to you, each time more docile!
make your bottom feel like you have chosen him, but not really--you're just too lazy to find someone else -- and anyway, there are plenty of fish in the sea --again, don;t let him feel secure
fuck your bottom bareback and fill him with your cum even if they don't want you to ... not their choice to make ... keep your cock up his hole after you cum ... or make them swallow your cum
if your sub was abused growing up, role play the abuse with him. He will keep coming back for more. include face slapping in the role play--they love that ... plant fear in him in role play -- will keep him submissive to you all the time ...
if he becomes angry or offended, be especially nice and promise not to do it again, but make him feel it was his fault--he provoked it ... then give him the "honeymoon" treatment and fuck him some more ... he'll forget soon enough
remember, with a sub bottom, it's all about keeping their hungry hole happy and feeding their submissive cravings ... nothing else matters to them ... make them feel used and they will be yours for as long as you want to ...
Once friends have convinced the bottom that you are the best thing for him and once everyone else has disappeared from his life, now you can reap the benefits of your hard work ... use him no only sexually, but financially, emotionally ... he is yours to do as you want ... prove your manliness and domination by humiliating him in subtle ways in front of the very same friends who pushed him to you ... and when in private, make him humiliate himself to serve you, his Master ... as a "real top" you now have your reward ... enjoy it