do you see yourself here?
so it's funny how people have been posting on Facebook stories about emotional and physical abuse in couples ...
so here are some questions to ask yourself ...
- does my partner always wants to assert his dominance over me whether in private, in public or with friends?
- my partner always has to show off around friends to indicate he is the dominant one.
- does he/she make all the plans?
- does your partner sabotage all your plans with your friends by making other plans even when he knows you have plans?
- does your partner make plans and then makes you feel that you agreed to them?
- do I wait around for him/her to call me or come over or ask me over?
- my partner will not let me initiate encounters.
- my partner will often disappear with no explanation.
- I often find myself trying to track where my partner is.
- my partner makes me feel insecure about our relationship by his demeanor and behavior.
- does he make me feel foolish when I try to make jokes or be light hearted?
- does he react with seriousness when I ask him anything (as if to indicate I have no right to)?
- do I have to change my behavior around my partner in other to avoid getting him/her angry?
- does my partner often display fits of anger that I find intimidating?
- do I feel lonely when I'm with my partner-emotionally unfulfilled?
- have I become isolated from my friends?
- does my partner show disapproval when I make plans with others and responds by withdrawing affection?
- does you partner often witdraw affection to make you do what he wants?
- do you find yourself often giving in to your partners wishes in order to avoid conflict?
- does your partner create conflict and withdraws affection and then gives you the honeymoon treatment when he feel you are withdrawing?
- do you find yourself often forgiving your partner even against your better judgement?
- do his friends often interfere and convince you of how good and nice he is and how much he likes/loves you?
- do you feel your partner is often manipulative?
- do you feel that you're only happy with your partner during episodes that lead to sexual intimacy?
- are you sexually dissatisfied but seek sex in order to receive affection?
- my partner does not show interest in my sexual satisfaction other than when he wants to get off?
- my partner does not respond to my sexual needs so I have to wait for him to be horny.
- my partner demands that I be sexually exclusive with him but will not commit to a relationship.
- my partner demands sex from me regardless of my emotional or physical state.
- my partner always has to be right and will not listen to my reasoning.
- my partner and I often find ourselves arguing over silly matters because my partner will not give in.
- my partner always blames me for his bad behavior or his foul moods.
- I am afraid and or intimidated by my partner.
- my partner is sweet and kind when he needs something.
- my partner with create tension and conflict but then behaves as if nothing is wrong or points the finger at me.
- my partner makes me feel like I am crazy by saying or doing things that he later denies.
- do you keep going back and feeling negative about it?
- have you shut yourself off to any criticism from friends about your unhealthy relationship?
if you agree with a majority of the questions or statements above, then seek help. You are in an emotionally abusive relationship that can turn violent if it hasn't already.
so here are some questions to ask yourself ...
- does my partner always wants to assert his dominance over me whether in private, in public or with friends?
- my partner always has to show off around friends to indicate he is the dominant one.
- does he/she make all the plans?
- does your partner sabotage all your plans with your friends by making other plans even when he knows you have plans?
- does your partner make plans and then makes you feel that you agreed to them?
- do I wait around for him/her to call me or come over or ask me over?
- my partner will not let me initiate encounters.
- my partner will often disappear with no explanation.
- I often find myself trying to track where my partner is.
- my partner makes me feel insecure about our relationship by his demeanor and behavior.
- does he make me feel foolish when I try to make jokes or be light hearted?
- does he react with seriousness when I ask him anything (as if to indicate I have no right to)?
- do I have to change my behavior around my partner in other to avoid getting him/her angry?
- does my partner often display fits of anger that I find intimidating?
- do I feel lonely when I'm with my partner-emotionally unfulfilled?
- have I become isolated from my friends?
- does my partner show disapproval when I make plans with others and responds by withdrawing affection?
- does you partner often witdraw affection to make you do what he wants?
- do you find yourself often giving in to your partners wishes in order to avoid conflict?
- does your partner create conflict and withdraws affection and then gives you the honeymoon treatment when he feel you are withdrawing?
- do you find yourself often forgiving your partner even against your better judgement?
- do his friends often interfere and convince you of how good and nice he is and how much he likes/loves you?
- do you feel your partner is often manipulative?
- do you feel that you're only happy with your partner during episodes that lead to sexual intimacy?
- are you sexually dissatisfied but seek sex in order to receive affection?
- my partner does not show interest in my sexual satisfaction other than when he wants to get off?
- my partner does not respond to my sexual needs so I have to wait for him to be horny.
- my partner demands that I be sexually exclusive with him but will not commit to a relationship.
- my partner demands sex from me regardless of my emotional or physical state.
- my partner always has to be right and will not listen to my reasoning.
- my partner and I often find ourselves arguing over silly matters because my partner will not give in.
- my partner always blames me for his bad behavior or his foul moods.
- I am afraid and or intimidated by my partner.
- my partner is sweet and kind when he needs something.
- my partner with create tension and conflict but then behaves as if nothing is wrong or points the finger at me.
- my partner makes me feel like I am crazy by saying or doing things that he later denies.
- do you keep going back and feeling negative about it?
- have you shut yourself off to any criticism from friends about your unhealthy relationship?
if you agree with a majority of the questions or statements above, then seek help. You are in an emotionally abusive relationship that can turn violent if it hasn't already.