Bottom Wills and Wonts
below is a list of wills and wont's that bottoms will and won't do ...
this is based on observation and experience with bottoms, both in intimacy as well as friendship ...
bottoms are passive ... yes, sounds obvious, but the truth is that bottoms are passive aggressive, passive in action, passive in emotional expression. they will not act on or express their feelings and expect the top to figure them out, as if by magic -- they will even forgo relationships if the top doesn't behave as they think a top should--or as they see it in their fantasy. Their passive aggressiveness, or shutting down, is their meek defense against predators -- may have worked well when they were children, but now is it their greatness weakness and flaw--the ting that keeps them from achieving happiness and fulfillment
bottoms like to be used ... most bottoms were raped as kids. They were bullied and sexually used. And now, as adults, they seek relationships with men who are "rapists"--in other words, men who will use and abuse them and not take into account their feelings are their needs. They like to feel helpless and emotionally trapped and they derive pleasure from this imprisonment. They are not happy in it, but it has become an uncomfortable comfort zone that they seek. They continue to live in the helpless victim mode in which they grew up ... this is part of their passive aggressiveness ... feeling helpless, they do not express their emotions or desires as a defense mechanism
bottoms will not accept love and tenderness ... although they fantasize about love and tenderness, they seek emotionally/sexually abusive men -- they are more comfortable with a bully as a partner than with someone who will be tender and affectionate with them. In fact, they see "tender love and caring" as not a manly quality, they see it as a weakness. They are assume the passive stance when an abusive man approaches them--they become the natural victim for an emotional/sexual predator.
Bottoms will let their desires drive them ... it's a sad truth, but bottoms will place their anal desires above all. I have seen it time and again, at the prospect a good cock, or the cock that controls them, they will forgo commitments and their own needs and wants. This probably goes back to their childhood experiences where they were helpless at the hands of their abusers and now that they have eroticized that helplessness, it controls them. Placing themselves at the mercy of their current abuser {or owner} is worth more to them than any friendship or potential relationship.
this is based on observation and experience with bottoms, both in intimacy as well as friendship ...
bottoms are passive ... yes, sounds obvious, but the truth is that bottoms are passive aggressive, passive in action, passive in emotional expression. they will not act on or express their feelings and expect the top to figure them out, as if by magic -- they will even forgo relationships if the top doesn't behave as they think a top should--or as they see it in their fantasy. Their passive aggressiveness, or shutting down, is their meek defense against predators -- may have worked well when they were children, but now is it their greatness weakness and flaw--the ting that keeps them from achieving happiness and fulfillment
bottoms like to be used ... most bottoms were raped as kids. They were bullied and sexually used. And now, as adults, they seek relationships with men who are "rapists"--in other words, men who will use and abuse them and not take into account their feelings are their needs. They like to feel helpless and emotionally trapped and they derive pleasure from this imprisonment. They are not happy in it, but it has become an uncomfortable comfort zone that they seek. They continue to live in the helpless victim mode in which they grew up ... this is part of their passive aggressiveness ... feeling helpless, they do not express their emotions or desires as a defense mechanism
bottoms will not accept love and tenderness ... although they fantasize about love and tenderness, they seek emotionally/sexually abusive men -- they are more comfortable with a bully as a partner than with someone who will be tender and affectionate with them. In fact, they see "tender love and caring" as not a manly quality, they see it as a weakness. They are assume the passive stance when an abusive man approaches them--they become the natural victim for an emotional/sexual predator.
Bottoms will let their desires drive them ... it's a sad truth, but bottoms will place their anal desires above all. I have seen it time and again, at the prospect a good cock, or the cock that controls them, they will forgo commitments and their own needs and wants. This probably goes back to their childhood experiences where they were helpless at the hands of their abusers and now that they have eroticized that helplessness, it controls them. Placing themselves at the mercy of their current abuser {or owner} is worth more to them than any friendship or potential relationship.