observation++
some recent events I have become aware of have got me thinking ... it takes a special person to be a predator!!
generally, a predator looks for the weak and the wounded ... next, he/she will gain the confidence of its victim ... as we know, the weak and wounded tend to be distrustful ... the predator knows how to gain the confidence of its victim, get them to share information that they then use to pounce on them and turn them into a victim ... they offer what the victim is looking, aching for, but at the price of emotional, physical and even financial abuse ... the predator will get the victim to become totally reliant on them emotionally ... once they achieve this, the victim becomes dependent on the predator and is willing to pay the price that the predator exacts: they will put up with the emotional abuse and often find ways to justify it; they will rationalize physical abuse and often blame themselves for provoking it; and they are so emotionally attached, that they are willing to be financially generous--sometimes to their own detriment ...
and yes, it takes a special person to be a predator -- the lowest form of human who will exploit the pain of others for his own gain, whether it be narcissistic satisfaction--which often includes having control of someone--of controlling their happiness and, more often, their unhappiness -- they love to exert their power over their victim by causing them emotional distress--often in very subtle forms ... and of course, when they feel they are pushing their victim to the limit, they become the loving, doting lover.
The predator can often be very charming and social, but will keep his victim isolated. Will often become friends with the victims family and friends--sometimes usurping the friends and so cutting off or limiting the victims support network. The victim needs to be kept away from friends and family so that they can be more easily subjugated and so the predator can exert the maximum control--the control that makes them feel like a real person ... without a victim, the predator often feels empty and prone to depression, anger, isolation
generally, a predator looks for the weak and the wounded ... next, he/she will gain the confidence of its victim ... as we know, the weak and wounded tend to be distrustful ... the predator knows how to gain the confidence of its victim, get them to share information that they then use to pounce on them and turn them into a victim ... they offer what the victim is looking, aching for, but at the price of emotional, physical and even financial abuse ... the predator will get the victim to become totally reliant on them emotionally ... once they achieve this, the victim becomes dependent on the predator and is willing to pay the price that the predator exacts: they will put up with the emotional abuse and often find ways to justify it; they will rationalize physical abuse and often blame themselves for provoking it; and they are so emotionally attached, that they are willing to be financially generous--sometimes to their own detriment ...
and yes, it takes a special person to be a predator -- the lowest form of human who will exploit the pain of others for his own gain, whether it be narcissistic satisfaction--which often includes having control of someone--of controlling their happiness and, more often, their unhappiness -- they love to exert their power over their victim by causing them emotional distress--often in very subtle forms ... and of course, when they feel they are pushing their victim to the limit, they become the loving, doting lover.
The predator can often be very charming and social, but will keep his victim isolated. Will often become friends with the victims family and friends--sometimes usurping the friends and so cutting off or limiting the victims support network. The victim needs to be kept away from friends and family so that they can be more easily subjugated and so the predator can exert the maximum control--the control that makes them feel like a real person ... without a victim, the predator often feels empty and prone to depression, anger, isolation