there is a particular type of friend ... the usurper ... this is the friend that will gain your confidence and slowly become your confidant, best friend, even a lover or sex partner ... they are skillful and patient in their approach; in fact, they will appear harmless enough that you will invite them in. And, before you know it, they have taken over your social life or are an intricate part of it ... The usurper will slowly work his way into your social life; and, before you know it, the usurper will be your friend's best friend -- they will wine and dine him, take him on trips, etc while you are standing more and more on the sidelines--unless you are with the usurper ... and, again, before you know it, you and the usurper are a couple ... to your friends, you and the usurper are partners and you go nowhere without him ... the usurper, always present, will sabotage any possible new relationships his victim may want to develop--whether romantic or social--the usurper will become ...