connect
for me to trust someone, I need to feel they have let me in -- that they have let their walls down --
It's hard for me to trust someone who only let's me into the front yard but keeps the front door locked, as it were, yet expect me to act as if they had let me into their bedroom -- It's hard for love to flourish that way. The feeling of love and the act of love are two different things -- as are equally different friendly sexual intercourse and emotional intimacy ... and yet not many people seem to be able to go beyond -- not for lack of desire, but really for lack of effort -- everyone wants love and emotional intimacy more than just a sexual connection and friendship but they are not willing to make the effort and commitment to go beyond -- they are too afraid, much too afraid -- and I understand that fear well now ... it's easier to jump into bed and become friends and have more sex than it is to make a real connection -- few people are fortunate to make a real connection, emotional, spiritual, even psychic -- and they may recognize it when it happens -- but they are too afraid to let their guard down and instead prefer the easier, less fulfilling road of activity chums -- let's hang out, have sex, have fun -- but not get emotional beyond the friendship -- no commitment, no expectations; and that translates to no satisfaction, no fulfillment, no growth.
It's hard for me to trust someone who only let's me into the front yard but keeps the front door locked, as it were, yet expect me to act as if they had let me into their bedroom -- It's hard for love to flourish that way. The feeling of love and the act of love are two different things -- as are equally different friendly sexual intercourse and emotional intimacy ... and yet not many people seem to be able to go beyond -- not for lack of desire, but really for lack of effort -- everyone wants love and emotional intimacy more than just a sexual connection and friendship but they are not willing to make the effort and commitment to go beyond -- they are too afraid, much too afraid -- and I understand that fear well now ... it's easier to jump into bed and become friends and have more sex than it is to make a real connection -- few people are fortunate to make a real connection, emotional, spiritual, even psychic -- and they may recognize it when it happens -- but they are too afraid to let their guard down and instead prefer the easier, less fulfilling road of activity chums -- let's hang out, have sex, have fun -- but not get emotional beyond the friendship -- no commitment, no expectations; and that translates to no satisfaction, no fulfillment, no growth.